Issue 01

On Leaving and Being Left

15 August 2025 · On the small violences of departure, and what it means to keep a self intact across an ocean.


We started this letter because the group chats had stopped being enough. There is a particular kind of thought that only arrives once a month — slower, stranger, embarrassed to be seen — and it kept dying in the scroll.

So: a letter. Once a month. No metrics, no notifications, no reason to hurry. Read it on the train, or don’t. Reply if you want to.

Welcome to the first one.

The Geography of a Phone Call

My mother calls at an hour that is morning for her and midnight for me, and in the eight-second delay between her question and my answer there is an entire ocean. I have started to think of that delay as a place. I live in it now, a little.

There is a version of leaving that everyone warns you about — the logistics, the visa, the cardboard months. Nobody warns you about the second leaving, the one that happens slowly, in the gap between how are you and I’m fine, where the truth used to fit and no longer does.

Without a home everything was fragmentation. With a home things came together, and what had been separate became whole.

John Berger

On leaving, and the objects left behind

Two pieces that belong together.

These two pieces arrived separately but clearly belong together — one a meditation on distance, the other a borrowed voice on return. We placed them here as a pair.


Essay

The Geography of a Phone Call

My mother calls at an hour that is morning for her and midnight for me, and in the eight-second delay between her question and my answer there is an entire ocean. I have started to think of that delay as a place. I live in it now, a little.

There is a version of leaving that everyone warns you about — the logistics, the visa, the cardboard months. Nobody warns you about the second leaving, the one that happens slowly, in the gap between how are you and I’m fine, where the truth used to fit and no longer does.

Quote

Without a home everything was fragmentation. With a home things came together, and what had been separate became whole.

John Berger



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